The New Year period is often a time for self-reflection, looking back on the year that has passed and thinking about future goals, plans and opportunities. Many people take it as an opportunity to set intentions for the year ahead, whether it’s exercising more or eating better, learning a new skill or pursuing a different career.
However, while there’s nothing wrong with making New Year’s resolutions if you want to, sometimes they can end up doing more harm than good to mental health and wellbeing.
When resolutions go wrong
New Year’s resolutions can be powerful motivators for positive change, but it’s crucial to approach them thoughtfully. Often, these resolutions are framed in all-or-nothing terms, setting us up for a win-or-lose mindset. While a bit of healthy competition can drive progress, falling short of our goals can make us feel like we’ve failed entirely. This approach risks harming our self-esteem, confidence, and motivation, turning what should be an opportunity for growth into a source of discouragement.
A 2023 survey by Forbes showed that 62% of people feel pressured to set a New Year’s resolution, with women (64%) feeling slightly more pressured to set a resolution than men (60%). However, other research shows that 90% of people do not complete their New Year’s resolutions, with around 25% “quitting” by the end of the first week.
Given the high failure rate, it might be worth taking a new approach to resolutions this New Year.
Resolution revolution: how to set healthier goals
If you do feel encouraged to make a New Year’s resolution (remember, we can make positive changes at any time of year), here are tips for setting goals that are better for your mental health.
Seek self-acceptance
It’s important to remember that if you slip up on your resolution, it’s okay to forgive yourself and keep going. The key is to keep trying. Research shows that forming new habits takes about 10 weeks, so don’t expect dramatic changes after just a few weeks of effort. And remember, everyone’s journey is different. If it takes you longer or feels harder than it does for someone else, that’s perfectly normal – many factors influence your progress, and comparison isn’t helpful.
Build a support system
One of the benefits of embracing who you are is knowing you don’t have to do it alone. Surrounding yourself with supportive people can provide comfort, peace, and even inspiration. Research from the Health Information National Trends Survey shows that people with strong social support from friends and family are more likely to make healthier choices and experience better health outcomes, including reduced stress.
Flip the script
The language we use matters more than we might realise. Instead of saying “I have to” or “I must,” try reframing it as “I get to” or “I will try.” Shifting our mindset from a negative demand to a positive opportunity not only helps us approach our resolutions with a healthier attitude but also reduces the fear of failure, setting us up for success.
Prioritise wellness
Remember, whether or not you choose to set a New Year’s resolution, the priority is your health and wellbeing. Remember to take time every day for yourself, keep up with exercise and maintain a healthy diet and good sleep habits. Staying healthy in mind and body will help you achieve your goals – whatever they may be.
How Flourish can help
Flourish Australia is community mental health service and registered NDIS provider that specialises in providing tailored peer-led support. This includes assistance with day-to-day living, employment, housing and more. To find out more about how we can help, contact us on 1300 779 270 or here.
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